Blinded by science in the online dating game
By the time our salads arrived, he had a confession to make.“This is really awkward, but I need to tell you that I just got back with my girlfriend and we are engaged.”Wait, what?“I almost called you to cancel, but I didn’t think for a minute that I’d actually be attracted to you.I no longer believed in “perfect” or fairy tales about princes, but hiding out wasn’t the answer, either.She was vague about what made him ideal, but I agreed to give it a chance. ” I asked, since that fact can immediately separate the men from the boys.And now here we are and I do find you attractive — and you’re a single mother — and I feel that I have to confess where I’m at. Affairs columns For the next hour he poured his heart out to me about the problems in his relationship and what caused them to break up in the first place. There was also the character actor, introduced by a mutual friend, who was in the throes of a bad divorce.I don’t want to jerk you around, but suddenly I’m a bit confused.”I skipped my workout for this? We bonded over battle stories at dinner in the Valley, and although there wasn’t a romantic spark, I was grateful for the company.By accepting a blind date I had outsourced the hunting — but was essentially admitting to having zero hunting game of my own.
Tall, with ruffled silver hair, he had a casual elegance about him in sharp contrast to his gum chewing.I learned what clues to listen for — did he want to talk about his ex all night? I didn’t cross my fingers and keep quiet because I was afraid of seeming needy. When I looked at the date as an opportunity to learn something it made the experience much richer, even when it was clear we weren’t a match. Affairs chronicles the current dating scene in and around Los Angeles. But most of all, those rehearsals helped me recognize a great match when I finally saw one. A.-based freelance writer and has published a novel, “Synchronized Breathing.” Her work has appeared in the Washington Post and Harpers If you have comments or a true story to tell, email us at [email protected] After my marriage ended I felt too raw to consider jumping into online dating.
At first I said no when friends offered to set me up, but when I found myself feeling lost on my child-free evenings, I started saying yes.“Don’t learn by me,” he said, and laughed as he deposited the gum smack in the middle of a piece of olive bread, folded it over like a sandwich and abandoned it on the table.