Frank was caught unawares when his 11-year marriage ended a year ago.
He and his two children, aged 10 and 12, are still adjusting to the change.
“As long as he is thoughtful of his children, takes time to introduce a new person and makes time to talk openly about how his children are feeling, then he will be able to work through it, painful as that could be at times.” One young client recently told her, “It would be OK if my dad dated.I just want him to be happy.” Fiona Gulliver (a pseudonym) waited for two years after her husband left before entertaining the thought of connecting with another man. She has speed-dated, joined organized dating clubs and visited any number of online dating sites.It was both for the sake of decorum and so as not to further disrupt the lives of her kids, then only 10 and five. At first she restricted dating to nights when the children were visiting their dad.She says it was hard for her son when she ended the relationship.
The question of when to introduce a new love to the kids is one of the bugbears of parental dating.The online profile had been intriguing enough: Dark-eyed stranger, at least as tall as me, a smattering of common musical tastes (I would forgive him Metallica), some hint of wit, a suggestion of creative energy, a fondness for the canine set, his own hair.